How to choose your music for use in a civil wedding ceremony, what wedding music your registrar does and does not allow
ou should always consult with your registrar`s office about your choice of music at the marriage ceremony as there are restrictions on religious music being used in civil ceremonies, which are the exact reverse of those which used to hold true for church ceremonies.
However avoiding religious music during the ceremony is not as restrictive as you might think as most of the incidental music used traditionally in church weddings actually come from secular sources.
The Bridal March often used for the arrival of the bride is from a Wagner opera for example while the Mendelsohnn Wedding March is from his incidental music to Shakespeare`s Midsummer Night`s Dream
The Entry of the Queen of Sheba, another popular choice, also normally invokes no opposition from the registrar`s office, and some more examples are given of this in the organ section below. Even the ones illustrated in the organ selection page are not religious in character. Some are obviously not, but sound remarkably majestic when played in that context!
part from the restriction against religion of course you are totally free to choose any music which will work well and add to the joy of the occasion! Be aware that I am not particularly good at punk rock and that recent pop ballads which have not had time to sink into the public consciouslness, may need to be sung rather than just played so that the message comes across.
here are many parts of your great day of course and that was just about the ceremony part. I can be booked separately for various combinations of the day's celebrations and I frequently find that a large classical influence is used in the wedding ceremony itself, going further away from that concept as the day progresses. The classic standardsjazz tunes exemplified by Sinatra and so on seem to fit the background of the drinks reception before the wedding breakfast.
Stories of the Wedding "Breakfast" Music"
t the wedding meal I still think it good to keep things relatively cool to avoid your guests choking on their food but with you in a position to enjoy it this can be a good time to interpolate one or two of your own special favourite songs, when you are relaxed and the background noise is relatively quiet to enjoy it. Some recent songs (those which are just guitar based for example) do not lend themselves to be recognised easily just on piano without the original singer, but I will do my best, but am definitely not recommending hip-hop and rap tunes! In general I like to include pop ballads and more film music and so on at this time when it can be heard.
Even so I have had some weddings where we had some fun during the wedding meal. One for example, trying to emulate the Julia Roberts film "My Best Friend's Wedding" with all the guests joining in with Burt Bacharach's I Say a Little Prayer (not an easy song to sing!) and one where the bride (who I recall was actually Transylvanian) engagingly sang "It Had to Be You" rehearsed previously to her groom during the speeches. And, since you were longing to ask, no blood was spilled on either occasion.
he evening reception is the time of course for a knees-up and to let everyone's hair down when anything goes, but this is usually a job for a pop band of your choice rather than myself. I have played during the evening for a quiet reception on occasion, still playing quietly but with guests having the chance to come up and discuss their requests and this was quite satisfying for both parties I thought.
When you hire me to play for you I am of course entirely at your service to help with your choice if you need it. If you within the Cornwall area you can even meet me before the event to check my suitability or choose your music.
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